Adapted from page 63 of Gunn and Goyer's Praying for Your Future Husband:
How Do I Pray That My Future Spouse Would Have Understanding?
Pray that God's light will flood his/her heart.
Pray that your future spouse will seek God and try to understand what God is doing in his/her life.
Pray that your future spouse will have a tender heart that will be understanding of your past mistakes.
Pray that you will be understanding of your future spouse's past mistakes.
Pray that, if your future mate's heart is broken, that he/she will be surrounded by good friends who will support him/her during the healing process.
Pray that in each of your spouse's relationships, your spouse will develop an understanding heart and always believe that God has a different and better plan, trusting God when the relationship didn't work out.